Nonviolent communication is more than a process or a language. On a deeper level is it is an ongoing reminder to keep our attention focused on a place where we are more likely to get what we are seeking.
As nonviolent communication replaces old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism, we come to perceive ourselves and others as well as our intentions and relations in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness and violent reactions are minimized. When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed, rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. Through emphasis on deep listening, to ourselves as well as others, nonviolent communication fosters respect, attentiveness and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to live from the heart.